Overthinking

Oh, how an inability to turn my brain off can take its toll on my wellbeing! As well as the physical strain of being awake more hours than my body can handle, there is the mental struggle of fighting untruths my subconscious mind tries to sell me. Even more than that is the way I find it increasingly difficult to reach out to family, friends, and God, when I let my mind run completely of its own accord down unhealthy avenues.

Sometimes we are going to get things wrong. This is part of being human. This is not something to be dwelled on, and if we’re not succeeding at everything we try it probably means we’re trying new things. No amount of thinking and planning through every iteration of a certain course of action will eliminate the risk things will turn out differently than we would have hoped. Yet, that won’t stop our minds trying to navigate the multitude of labyrinths certain choices will lead to.

Here are two examples from my own life which I hope are helpful.

When I decided I wanted to write a book and have it published, my knowledge of how to do this was limited. To be honest, at the present moment I am still in the fledgling stage of learning how to publish a book. This has not stopped me writing and editing my manuscript, sharing parts of the story with people for feedback, or practicing my writing skills. If I had spent large amounts of time worrying about how much of the publishing process I am unfamiliar with, it would have eaten into the beautifully productive time that has brought me this far. My manuscript is in the hands of a group of beta readers, who have offered to provide me with feedback once they have read through it. While this is happening, I am working my way through a second edit of the manuscript, alongside searching for editors and subject experts who would be willing to help me bring the manuscript closer to publishing-ready. Again, if I had spent too much time in my own head working through all this myself, I would have run in circles, instead of seeking people who know about the things I don’t and are willing to help.

Some people we meet we click with straight away. They’re like friends we’ve known for years, even if we’ve only known them a few weeks. If we want to embark on a journey to talk about taking things further than friendship, there needs to be action. One person needs to embrace the courage to take the first step into the unknown this conversation will bring. What happens in my mind before this step is taken, is deep thought about all the different paths this conversation could take. I can only ever know one part of this interaction, my own, as I am but one piece of this everchanging puzzle. In the past my mind has defaulted to the negative outcomes a conversation like this could take – with little to no evidence for thinking this way! Regardless of the outcome, the benefits of stepping out of that safe, pseudo-comfortable, little box, even for a moment, are too much to ignore. Due to this drastic overcomplication of things in my mind, I became an iceberg – sometimes moving even slower than that – when trying to express how I feel about someone.

Thankfully, it’s not always about me. Sometimes God’s plan unfolds without me even realising it.

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Are there certain areas of your life where you contemplate the possibilities for too long instead of taking action?

How can you embrace courage and put your best foot forward in these situations?

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You are brave. You are courageous. You are loved.

Keep on keeping on being awesome.

PEACE.

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16 thoughts on “Overthinking

  1. Eleanor Lorene Lowe says:

    Yes! I have been planning a very drastic move but have admittedly been stalling out of fear. I welcome the change, just afraid I won’t fit (like I don’t belong). I’ve found courage in keeping my goal in front of me I created a kind of dream wall in my room. 4 cork boards pushed and hung together with pictures and lists and things that help remind me of all the positive things it would bring all the beauty in the possibility of it. Keeping it in front of me reminds me to pray everyday and every night for the courage to take the next steps forward.

    Thanks for this post, Hamish!

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    1. Hamish says:

      That ol’ imposter syndrome can strike us in so many ways, even when we know we’re going where we are meant to! I love your dream wall idea. Keep the things you want to focus on nearby, to look at and embrace even when the mind might be running away with so many other thoughts.

      Thank you for reading and the courage to share parts of your story. I pray you go well into the coming week. 😊

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      1. Eleanor Lorene Lowe says:

        Indeed! I’m glad you like the idea. 😉

        Thank you for asking such brilliant and thought provoking questions! Someone told me once: Kia Kaha (Stay Strong) That resonated with me, so, I wrote it on this bright pink post it and put it up on my dream wall! Thank you!

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    1. Hamish says:

      You are most welcome, thank you for stopping by to read. 😊

      Courage is what that sounds like my friend! Reaching out into the known and the unknown with enthusiasm and an open mind for learning. Keep on keeping on being awesome!

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  2. AP2 says:

    I often think the intuitive mind, or “the gut” is for those big life decisions when a leap of faith is required. The rational mind is meant to deal with the details after the fact. If you let that rational mind micromanage your whole life it will crush the spirit. Great post Hamish. I always enjoy your thoughtful posts. 🙏

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    1. Hamish says:

      This is advice I will do well to remember, to embrace the joy that can be behind those doors of uncertainty sometimes. Thank you for the encouragement, and the reminders that not everything is about critical analysis. Sometimes a leap of faith is the best decision we can make! ✨

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    1. Hamish says:

      Sometimes we need to hear things out loud, either said by others or ourselves, to feel the truth in the words. Thank you for stopping by and sharing. 😊

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  3. bubblebathselfempowerment says:

    I’m an overthinker too. Sometimes it can be a warning sign, like in a relationship. I overthought in my last relationship and always blamed it on my insecurities, but in the end, it was constant red flags I was overlooking because I wanted to stay with him. In the end, I did not trust him because of his behavior and that is why I overthought it all the time. I had to let the relationship go.

    I also overthought quitting my job to follow my passions. I was afraid to take the leap. This time the overthinking was because the job was sucking the life force out of me and stalling what I really wanted to do. I ended up quitting my job and following my passions and there is no more overthinking, even though things aren’t working out perfectly in my financial life, I know I’m on the right track now and I’m doing what my soul was crying out to do.

    So I think in the end, the overthinking is always there to show you something, whether it be that we have to let something go, heal something within ourselves or be more aware.

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    1. Hamish says:

      “Easy” decisions are not always the best ones, because sometimes they are easy because they are familiar rather than good for us. It is so heartwarming to hear you are on the right track, empowered to follow the light within your soul.

      I love this last paragraph of yours, that overthinking is there to show us something. If we are spending time ruminating there’s something in that for us to be aware of. I will take this with me as I go into the second half of this year, trying to be more conscious of when my overactive mind might be trying to impart different knowledge than I see at first!

      Thank you for this courageous share, and peace to you as we move towards the coming weekend. ✨

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  4. rachelguilford1 says:

    Thank you for sharing from your own experience. I’m in the process of trying to write my first book, and have faced similar challenges and questions. I’ve done teh same with starting a blog, all the possibilities of layout and content, when sometimes you just need to take the next brave step…

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    1. Hamish says:

      I’ve been thinking recently that maybe “writing my first book” is not a helpful way of phrasing it for me. Saying it is the “first” somehow places more weight on the project than might otherwise exist. Maybe I am just writing a book, and working my way towards getting it published. I’ve definitely not saying it is easy, or that we’ll know everything straight away, but looking for ways to keep my mind focussed where it needs to be, and give it rest without scaring it away from doing the thing.

      “Sometimes you just need to take the brave next step…” <- This is a brilliant piece of wisdom true in all areas of our lives. Thank you for sharing it. 😊

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