Sometimes we are thrown into a situation we didn’t ask for. We have nothing but the clothes on our back and the knowledge in our mind to propel us forward into the unknown. It can be the most disorienting thing going from everything being under to control to not knowing which way is up – do we even want to know?
Change will come along in our lives, and no matter how much preparation we go through, there will always be hitches in the road. And big changes open up the possibility for big hitches. I’ve heard it said that three things that can cause the most stress are starting a new job, moving house, and getting married.
A new job brings opportunity for growth, and often a steep learning curve. Without an understanding team around us, ready to act with patience, we can flounder and slip beneath the surface. Everything seems even murkier down there. I’ve been fortunate enough to have enthusiastic people around me in my current role, ready to help me learn what I don’t know. But what about mistakes? Things not adding up? Should we just hide under a rock and hope it fixes itself. We are encouraged not to worry about making mistakes because everyone works hard to make sure any problem is fixable. Because it is.
Moving house requires lots of packing to prepare, time management and people-power to help move everything, and acceptance that sometimes things just take longer than you thought. Having the right people around helps. If you have a lot of big things to move then a moving company might be wise. If you’re moving far it might be awkward to make multiple trips. The more things you have to move and the further you have to go, the more planning will be required, and this in itself can be stressful. But, what about that storm? Friends unable to make it on the day? Shattered that treasured thing on the ground? All this can multiply the stress of the situation. We can only control the controllable, and work as hard as we can.
Getting married is big life change. Embarking on the journey of sharing every part of your life with someone is exciting, but if you’re like me and overthink everything, it also brings a lot of ‘what ifs’. I can’t speak from experience because I’m not married and it’s not a thing that is in my immediate future, but friends have told me a lot of planning is required. In our current world who is to be invited is a very different proposition to usual. Venue, food, music; is it going to be big or small? And it’s not just about the event itself but what setting up for the future of spending life together.
If we practice the act of planning we’ll get better at it. But we also need to be able to think on our feet, to enjoy whatever change is going to come, planned or not.
I’m in a discord server with some really good friends where we talk about and play different role playing games. The other day without warning one friend sent a message:
Without prompting someone jumped in and began to adventure. Several others including me piled into the wagon that was this impromptu created world. We had not planned for it, we didn’t know what our role was, we didn’t know what rule system we were playing with, if there was one, and we didn’t even know what the aim was in this pseudo-game, but we dived in anyway. Sometimes the best things simply require the right people and “yes we can!” attitudes.
Without knowing we would at the beginning of the day, we created a superbly fun game that we are now making up as we go along. A bit like life really if you think about it.
How is the adventure that is your life going? Are you spending time around people that lift you up? Do you feel fire in your soul to do the same for them?
With the right people around we can make the best of any situation. Peace.