Keep on keeping on, again

If ever a year was going to feel overwhelming, 2020 would be a good candidate for many of us. Factors outside of our control have led to periods of enforced physical isolation, changes in scheduled travel and events, regulations when moving through public spaces, and availability of work. These changes have affected everyone differently, and certainly not equally.

For me this year has been like a waveform. Sometimes I feel I’m riding the crest, able to see far into the distance, perhaps even a destination. Other times I feel like I’m struggling in a trough, water barrelling over the top of me, and I can’t see a way up or out. I am used to this latter feeling. It’s one know well from my struggles with depression and there is a familiar comfort in this recognition. But, I know it is not a healthy way to be. Being human I can only hold my breath for so long, and whatever flotsam I find myself holding will eventually break apart. There is a chance I’ll swim in the right direction without being able to see where I’m going, but that’s not a chance I’m willing to take.

For the past fortnight I’ve felt good about progress with writing and music for the most part. Researching what I need to find out and applying that knowledge to the editing of my manuscript has been a slow process, but a steady one. My father and I have finished the first draft of our latest short story competition entry. I’ve allotted time in my weekly schedule to organise and consolidate blog post and story ideas, and I’m sticking to it—so far. I’ve practiced the guitar every day, spending at least ten minutes working on technique. I’ve even booked in time to watch useful videos to improve technique too. It all seemed productive.

Then Saturday came along. I attended a wonderful ordination ceremony for our Anglican diocese here in Wellington. As a Christian it was uplifting to be present with so many people who care about the world and each other. After the ceremony, there was a Eucharist to celebrate being part of the family of Christ. This was quieter, with fewer people present, which enabled me to feel a sense of peace.

The moment I stepped out of the cathedral to begin the walk home I began to feel alone. These vague feelings of loneliness and a ‘what’s the point?’ mindset crept up from the depths into my mind. Thankfully I’ve learned to see warning signs earlier than I used to. I immediately ate something and set about doing something which required a small amount of mental energy, watching a television show I know I enjoy. Still, even when I do these things, the feelings remain, stalking the perimeter of my mental defences for when I make one misstep.

It is at these times I have learned to pray. I do not pray that everything will be instantly better, but for the strength to lay the worries and anxieties I have down to God. It was a haphazard prayer which wasn’t very clear, and I didn’t exactly feel any better about the situation right then, but I could begin to see there would be a way out. My head was underwater and I was being tossed around, but instead of fighting the current I simply let it carry me. Fighting it would only have used more energy. This meant I didn’t edit as much of my book manuscript as I wanted, nor play the guitar for as long as I intended, nor do as much stretch and strength work as I wanted, but mentally it meant I was at least ok.

If I looked at the weekend with a purely productivity mindset it would look like a waste of time. The number of words edited was in the hundreds, not thousands. The time spent practicing guitar was the bare minimum of ten minutes a day I set myself. I didn’t even read as much of the current book I’m reading which is a gripping thriller! However, if I zoom out, look at the weekend as part of the larger whole, as part the long-term efforts to share my creations by publishing my books and music, it fits snugly into the category of ‘necessary rest’.

I struggle to be ok with not being ok, but I’m getting better at thanking God for being there during the good times as well as the rough ones. Just prior to the weekend I came across this video with some poignant advice. It is footage of an American Pastor Michael Todd from a sermon he delivered in 2019. It might seem a bit naff but the message it holds is still relevant, and always will be.

If you’re feeling lost, if you’re wondering which way is up, if you feel like the water’s getting rough, if you know what you want to do but it’s difficult to get started each day don’t lose hope.

Keep. On. Praying.

Know you are not alone. I cycle through feeling at least three of these things every single day. Keep on keeping on being you. No one is a better you than you. And that is an amazing thing.

Peace.

Cover photo by Harvey Sapir from Pexels.

7 thoughts on “Keep on keeping on, again

  1. AP2 says:

    Lovely words Hamish. This year has certainly been a roller coaster of emotions – zoom the lens out though and I believe it’s been a year that has given all of us a greater perspective. And greater strength to weather storms ahead. As you say inward optimism- believing in yourself is so important.

    “Do not pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.” – Bruce Lee.

    Take it easy brother and keep on keeping on being awesome 😎🙏

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    1. Hamish says:

      That’s absolutely it. Overcoming fear, of things we can do and things we can’t do yet, is one of the joys of life. I’m still working on being ok not succeeding at something early in my journey with it. Writing and playing music give me life, but I don’t yet organise my time to do enough of them. But I shall keep on keeping on.

      I hope you find what you need this week. And your son does something special as he always seems to!

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  2. msw blog says:

    Great post i think the late Gloria Naylor, stated it best ” But I don’t believe that life is supposed to make you feel good, or to make you feel miserable either. Life is just supposed to make you feel.”

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    1. Hamish says:

      This is good advice, and something I’m currently not very good at. It is however something I’m actively working on, recognising the emotion I’m feeling, and letting myself feel it to process it healthily.

      Thank you for reading and sharing this wisdom. 😊

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  3. HensBlooms says:

    I can relate, thank you for your post! Especially the prayer part and this post reminds me of my blog where I wrote about 2020 and comparing it to a roller coaster ride without the fun part 🙂 You’ve reminded me also about a promise to myself to practice my music daily, I have not been doing that lately, thank you for that.

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  4. thewheelchairteen says:

    It certainly has been a crazy year! I’m happy to see that you’re learning how to deal with everything better; that you’re making plans and sticking to them as well as starting to pull yourself up after you notice when you start feeling dodgy. Reading your blog for the past few months have felt like accompanying you on your own personal journey, and it’s a pleasure to have been along for the ride.

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    1. Hamish says:

      It certainly has been a journey. I am thankful for each and every person that has been with me as we embark on each leg of this journey. Thank you for the encouragement, to continue moving forward, and continue learning about that which I don’t know about. Thank you.

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